Love Bytes answers burning questions about love, sex and relationships from USyd anons.
Q: “Advice for hopeful virgins”
Arwen: The sexiest thing you can be is yourself. The smell of desperation reeks.
Ella: Have sex.
Hannah: Quit being hopeful and start getting horny.
Chris: Happened for your Mum, it’ll happen for you too. Having sex runs in your family.
Q: “I have a serious cuckolding fetish. Is this something that I should be ashamed of?”
Arwen: Shame is unnecessary unless you do something you regret.
Ella: It is what it is, no need to beat yourself up over it.
Hannah: Yes and I think that therapy would be a good next step.
Chris: Never be ashamed! Just make sure you have the right chair!
Q: “Am I gay?”
Arwen: Idk but if you have to ask…
Ella: Yes! Mmmmh no actually, no probably not… unless? Maybe?
Hannah: No, it’s just a phase.
Chris: My housemate can help you figure that out.
Q: “How do I separate love from sex? Can these experiences be mutually exclusive or are they deeply intertwined? And, if the latter is true, is any attempt to ignore their intertwinedness a futile effort?”
Arwen: Maybe they are intertwined, but you don’t have to ignore it. Just remember you can love something without clinging to it.
Ella: The more important question could be why your feelings need to be perfectly defined. Sex can exist without love and love can exist without sex.
Hannah: I don’t think that love and sex are always intertwined, but I do think that when they are it can be really fun. Sex to me is an innately human activity that is almost animalistic and instinctive whereas love, or the modern idea of love that is fed to us from birth, is a fairly new phenomena that has a lot of made up rubbish connected to it.
Chris: A curtain, a laser beam, or even a separate room. There are many ways. But sex is love! and love is life! Why should we separate love and life? I like it.
Q: “How should I start talking to girls/generally making friends?”
Arwen: Ask them questions! E.g. Do you believe in astrology? Do you ever wish you were an only child? Would you join a cult? What did you eat today?
Ella: Start a creative project with someone who has a common interest. Like a radio show! Or a magazine, or a band. Even just talking about it can bring you closer to someone.
Hannah: Girls respond well to nice, confident people who laugh at their jokes and who pay close attention to their little anecdotes and general ramblings. Also, especially at uni, it is so refreshing when people are just open and forthright and kind. Girls, and also non-girls, will be taken aback by easy and uninhibited conversation!
Chris: You’re talking to the girls right now! Come on the show?
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